In person
Personal sessions with counselors near you. More non-verbal presence, direct contact, often deeper.
Couples & sex counseling, couples & sex therapy — matched, curated, qualified.
besser:lieben matches you with qualified counselors — online or in person. No endless comparing, no chance.
- Verified qualifications
- GDPR · servers in Germany
- Online or in person
- Match within 14 days
What you can rely on
Curated network, verified qualifications
Curated network
We verify training, continuing education and supervision. Only those who meet our standards are part of besser:lieben.
GDPR · German servers
Data does not leave Germany. Own infrastructure, no third-country subprocessors.
App-supported, secure
Chat, sessions, video calls — all in one place. Discreet and, on request, encrypted.
Online or in person
You choose. If no local counselor is available, online counseling is an honest alternative.
Transparent fees
Fees from €80 per session, agreed directly with the counselor. No hidden costs.
Switch any time
If the fit is not right, you can switch. The first 30 minutes are free to cancel.
Why the search is hard
"Couples therapy" and "sex therapy" are not protected terms
In theory, anyone can call themselves a couples or sex therapist. That is exactly why fit is so hard to verify — and why we curate.
At besser:lieben we name transparently which training and continuing education our counselors have completed. We look for certified credentials, ongoing supervision and evidence-based methods.
You don't have to figure out who is really qualified.
How it works
Three steps to suitable counseling
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Describe your concern
Start the consultation flow and briefly describe your situation.
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Receive matching suggestions
We suggest counselors who fit professionally and in your schedule — online or in person.
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Get in touch & start
Reach out directly or book an appointment. The first impression comes from the conversation itself.
You pay the counseling itself directly to your counselor. The entry via besser:lieben is a one-time €49.
Specialties
Where we accompany you
All four main areas are referred via besser:lieben — with clearly distinct focus.
Couples counseling
Clarification-oriented, solution-focused, often short-term. When you want to clarify a question or be accompanied through a phase.
Read moreCouples therapy
Methodical work on entrenched relationship patterns. When conflicts repeat or wounds linger.
Read moreSex counseling
Information, education, clarification — low-threshold. For questions on sexuality, desire and communication.
Read moreSex therapy
Methodical work on functional concerns, desire conflicts or aftermath of distressing experiences.
Read moreFamily counseling
Support in transitions, conflicts and new life phases — for families and parents.
Read moreTrauma counseling
Careful support after distressing experiences. Counseling complements — it does not replace psychotherapy.
Read moreOnline & in person
Whatever fits you better
We consider your preference and availability when matching. Both are serious; the choice depends on your concern, your life situation and the counselors locally available.
Online
Flexible, low-threshold, nationwide. Sensible when no local counselor fits or daily routine and travel are difficult.
Quality · Security · Privacy
Real privacy — not just on paper
100% own German servers. No data leaves our infrastructure. No subprocessors in third countries. Full control, high security standards, GDPR-compliant.
100% GDPR
Fully compliant
Servers in Germany
No third countries
Full control
No subprocessors
Frequently asked questions
How do couples counseling and couples therapy differ?
Counseling is clarification-oriented and usually shorter (3–8 sessions). Therapy works methodically across multiple sessions on entrenched patterns. Both are serious — the difference is depth and process duration.
How do sex counseling and sex therapy differ?
Sex counseling creates space for information, education and clarification. Sex therapy works methodically on specific concerns like desire conflicts, function questions or pain — usually across multiple sessions.
Is counseling the same as psychotherapy?
No. Psychotherapy is a medically authorised treatment for mental illness. Counseling via besser:lieben is not a clinical treatment but complementary support. For mental illness, psychotherapy is the right path.
Why does the entry cost €49?
You get structured access to suitable counseling — including matches, organisation and accompaniment via the app. The counseling itself is paid directly to the counselor.
Online or in person?
Both are possible. Online is flexible and low-threshold. In person allows more non-verbal presence. We consider your preference in the match.
What if the person is not the right fit?
You can cancel within the first 30 minutes of the first session at no cost, request new suggestions or switch counselors.
Does besser:lieben replace a crisis service?
No. besser:lieben is not a crisis service. In acute emergencies please contact local emergency services or the German Telefonseelsorge crisis line at 0800 111 0 111 (free, 24/7).
You don't have to figure this out alone
When your situation weighs on you, talking about it can help — structured and in a safe frame.
In an emergency
besser:lieben is not a crisis service and does not replace psychotherapy. In acute emergencies please contact local emergency services or — in Germany — the crisis helpline (Telefonseelsorge) at 0800 111 0 111 (free, 24/7).