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Your entry to the right counseling

Start couples therapy & sex counseling — a good fit, secure, structured

Certified counselors. Securely and clearly organized in our app. Tailored matching instead of endless searching.

Get started (€49) → Initial contact included · chat or 30-min call
  • Vetted counselors
  • Secure & confidential
  • Fit & availability instead of chance
Monika Wacker, founder of besser:lieben
Monika Wacker · Founder of besser:lieben

Many people are looking for couples or sex counseling because they feel stuck in their relationship or need support with conflict, intimacy or communication. At the same time, finding the right counseling is often hard: offers are confusing, appointments scarce and the decision is not easy.

At besser:lieben you don’t get a confusing comparison but a structured entry: we suggest counselors who fit your concern and availability. So you can start right away — without long searching.

What counseling does

Couples & sex counseling: resolving conflicts, building closeness

Are you uncomfortable in your relationship? Are arguments recurring or have you stopped talking? Maybe you are even thinking about separation. Such situations are stressful — but you are not alone with them.

Counseling can help you change communication patterns, understand conflicts better and find new ways of relating. The goal is not only to solve problems, but also to bring back more closeness, understanding and security to your relationship.

How it works

How to find counseling that fits

  1. 01

    Get started (€49 one-time)

    We understand your concern and suggest matching counselors.

  2. 02

    Use initial contacts (included)

    You can chat or have a first call — also with several people.

  3. 03

    When it fits: start counseling

    You get concrete appointment suggestions and can book directly — no scheduling back-and-forth.

Note: You pay for the actual counseling sessions directly to your counselor.

Your entry

Get started — €49 one-time

At besser:lieben you do not pay for contact details, but for a structured entry into matching counseling.

You get access to our secure app (oprax), through which we suggest matching counselors and you can directly get in touch. So you don’t have to compare or organize anything — everything is clearly in one place.

Why this makes sense

The initial contact (chat or first call) helps you check whether the counselor really fits — professionally and personally. Especially in couples counseling it is important that both feel comfortable.

The initial contact is not yet counseling — it serves orientation and clarification of the framework.

More than one initial contact possible

If you are unsure, you can also speak with several counselors and then decide.

What is included

  • Matching by concern & availability
  • Initial contacts (chat or call)
  • Access to the secure app (oprax)
  • Several options possible
  • Switching is possible if it does not fit

Preferred counselor possible

No risk: if it does not fit, you can end the conversation in the first 30 minutes free of charge

Trust

Why besser:lieben?

Verified quality

All counselors have solid training and continuing education and work to clear quality standards.

Secure & confidential

All communication runs through our protected app — GDPR-compliant and on our own servers.

Fit instead of chance

We consider not only your topic, but also your availability.

Support until it fits

If it does not fit, we help you find an alternative.

You are right here when

When couples & sex counseling makes sense

  • recurring conflicts
  • breach of trust or infidelity
  • emotional distance
  • topics around sexuality
  • jealousy or open relationship
  • major life decisions
  • ambivalence about separation
  • mental or chronic illness

Counseling helps you gain clarity — whether you stay together or separate.

Topics

Topics around couples & sex counseling

Communication Conflict Sexuality Jealousy Separation Trust
Approaches

Which approaches exist in couples therapy?

In couples therapy different approaches are used — e.g. systemic counseling, sex-therapy work or integrative methods.

What matters is less the method than the fit: a good counselor explains transparently how they work and whether that suits your concern.

Two people in a counseling conversation
Quality criteria

How to recognize good couples & sex counseling?

A trusting counseling conversation

Qualification

Solid foundational training + specialized continuing education

Experience

Work with couples, relationship topics and crises

Supervision & exchange

Regular professional reflection

Seriousness

Transparent way of working, no promises of healing

Rapport

You feel seen, taken seriously and safe

Emergency consultation within 48 hours

For acute situations we keep short-notice appointments. Write to us via the contact form — we will get back to you promptly.

In case of acute suicidality or violence, please contact Telefonseelsorge (0800 111 0 111) or emergency medical services. A complete overview of acute help options is available at In crisis.

FAQ

Frequently asked questions about getting started

Why does getting started cost €49?

Because you get a structured entry to vetted counseling — including matching, access to the secure app and support until it fits.

Is this already counseling?

No. The initial contact serves orientation. It helps you check whether the counselor fits you professionally and personally.

What happens if it does not fit?

You can switch or get further suggestions — at no additional cost within the 8-week window.

How quickly do I get an appointment?

Often within a few days. For acute situations the emergency consultation is available within 48 hours.

How much does the counseling itself cost?

Typically between €80 and €140 per hour. You pay the sessions directly to your counselor.

Can I work with a specific counselor?

Yes, you can name them when getting started. We take your wish into account during matching.

Is besser:lieben suitable for acute crises?

In case of acute suicidality or violence please contact Telefonseelsorge (0800 111 0 111) or emergency medical services.

Start your counseling in a structured way now

Instead of working through search results: we suggest counselors who fit — tailored to your concern and your availability.

One-time · valid 8 weeks · initial contacts included · switching possible at any time